Social Psych Lecture 8 2.18
- Two types of love
- Passionate love
- Characteristics:
- Intense longing for union with another
- Reciprocated love (i.e. union) produces feelings of fulfillment and ecstasy
- Unrequited love or separation produces emptiness, anxiety, or despair
- State of profound physiological arousal
- Physiology:
- Sex Hormones (Lust)
- Dopamine (Attraction)
- What "fuels" or intensifies passionate love?
- Positive emotions
- Negative emotions (e.g. Dutton & Aron)
- Emotionally neutral physiological arousal (exercise bike, roller coaster)
- Characteristics:
- Companionate love
- Characteristics:
- Comfortable, affectionate, trusting love for a likable partner
- Intimacy (self-disclosure)
- Affection (deep caring)
- Physiology:
- Oxytocin
- What fuels it?
- Reinforcement (positive interactions)
- Characteristics:
- Passionate love
- Attachment styles:
- Infant attachment
- Secure
- Anxious/ambivalent
- Avoidant
- Four Category/Two-Dimensional Model
- Attachment Anxiety (low to high)
- "I worry about being abandoned."
- "I resent it when my partner spends time away from me."
- Attachment Avoidance (low to high)
- "I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down."
- "Just when my partner starts to get close I find myself pulling away."
- Quadrants:
- Secure (secure)
- Comfortable w/intimacy
- Highest lvls of satisfaction & commitment
- Preoccupied (anx/amb)
- Uneasy, vigilant to threats
- Needy, Jealous
- Enter into relationships quickly
- Shortest relationships
- Dismissing (avoidant)
- Self-reliant
- Uninterested in intimacy
- Indifferent
- Independent
- Least likely to be in a relationship
- Lowest lvls of commitment
- Fearful
- Fear of rejection
- Mistrustful of others
- Suspicious, shy
- Secure (secure)
- Attachment Anxiety (low to high)
- Attachment is not destiny (attachment can change)
- 25-35% change over time
- Partner influences attachment style we exhibit
- Infant attachment