Social Psych Lecture 8 2.18

Two types of love
- Passionate love
  - Characteristics:
    - Intense longing for union with another
    - Reciprocated love (i.e. union) produces feelings of fulfillment and ecstasy
    - Unrequited love or separation produces emptiness, anxiety, or despair
    - State of profound physiological arousal
  - Physiology:
    - Sex Hormones (Lust)
    - Dopamine (Attraction)
  - What "fuels" or intensifies passionate love?
    - Positive emotions
    - Negative emotions (e.g. Dutton & Aron)
    - Emotionally neutral physiological arousal (exercise bike, roller coaster)
- Companionate love
  - Characteristics:
    - Comfortable, affectionate, trusting love for a likable partner
    - Intimacy (self-disclosure)
    - Affection (deep caring)
  - Physiology:
    - Oxytocin
  - What fuels it?
    - Reinforcement (positive interactions)
Attachment styles:
- Infant attachment
  - Secure
  - Anxious/ambivalent
  - Avoidant
- Four Category/Two-Dimensional Model
  - Attachment Anxiety (low to high)
    - "I worry about being abandoned."
    - "I resent it when my partner spends time away from me."
  - Attachment Avoidance (low to high)
    - "I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down."
    - "Just when my partner starts to get close I find myself pulling away."
  - Quadrants:
    - Secure (secure)
      - Comfortable w/intimacy
      - Highest lvls of satisfaction & commitment
    - Preoccupied (anx/amb)
      - Uneasy, vigilant to threats
      - Needy, Jealous
      - Enter into relationships quickly
      - Shortest relationships
    - Dismissing (avoidant)
      - Self-reliant
      - Uninterested in intimacy
      - Indifferent
      - Independent
      - Least likely to be in a relationship
      - Lowest lvls of commitment
    - Fearful
      - Fear of rejection
      - Mistrustful of others
      - Suspicious, shy
- Attachment is not destiny (attachment can change)
  - 25-35% change over time
  - Partner influences attachment style we exhibit